If you’re a regular reader you may think my life is one hilarious encounter after another.

And while some days that’s true, other times this could not be farther from the truth. Case in point: this week. 

For one, I strained my back at the gym yesterday because I forgot I’m no spring chicken, so my body decided to send me a reality check. “Hi! Remember me, your 58-year old body? Yeah, I don’t like it when you bump up the weight on the butt blaster so here’s your reminder. Have a nice day!”

Plus, we are in the process of buying a home and selling ours. If you’ve ever been through the process I’m sure I don’t have to elaborate on the amount of stress involved.

To make matters worse, my husband and I both work out of the house.

So each time a potential buyer wants to see the place we have to drop everything, load up all non-essential clutter in the garage and vacate the premises to give the illusion that we can actually thrive in a home with only a coffeemaker on the kitchen counter and a single box of tissues in the bathroom.

That happened at least once every day last week.

By Friday I felt as if I’d endured a 7-hour nonstop flight with a 5-year old kicking the back of my seat the entire way.

Can you relate?

I’m sure after surviving more than a half century on this planet you’ve had a week or two you’d call “less than blissful,” too.

This leads me to the point of today’s post, a subject near and dear to my heart: SUCCESS and how to achieve it.

Whether you’re buying a house, starting a new relationship or trying to lose weight and get in shape, this same principle applies.

Since you’re not reading this blog for advice on the first two topics, let’s talk about weight loss…

Why do some people reach their goals while others on the same program do not?

Great question, thanks for asking.

Think about how often you hear someone sing the praises of a program that enabled them to lose weight when nothing else did, or a trainer who did the same.

So you sign up for the same plan or hire the same trainer, expecting the results your friend experienced.

Only you don’t.

In fact, you hate the whole thing, dread every meal, every workout, and don’t see a single molecule of change anywhere except in your bank account.

So you quit. Then you blame the program or person who sold you the program. 

In reality, the hard and fast truth (assuming it’s a legit, healthy plan and not a fad or unsafe practice) that determines your success is YOU.

Yup, I’m putting it out there. 

I’m saying this because I care about you, and I know you can do whatever you decide to do.

The operative phrase lies in the last part of that sentence.

I want to help you to reach your goals.

I also know the reason most people don’t is because they get in their own way.

Here’s how and why… the #1 trait that separates success from non-success: 


This sounds like a no-brainer, but most people start an exercise or nutrition plan thinking the plan itself will create the change. In reality, it’s the opposite. You must first possess motivation to change, then you choose a plan. It rarely works in reverse.

A huge part of this change requires a shift in mindset from what [you think] you’re losing versus what you gain.

If you believe you’ll be hurting, hungry or socially deprived by the changes you’ll need to make, you will never do them, at least not for long.

Your focus needs to shift to how much better you’ll look and feel, and know the changes that seem difficult now will soon become a way of life and no longer need to be decided every day.

They’ll become as automatic as the habits you practice now, only the new ones take you where you want to go where your current ones keep you in the same place.

For example, I get up in the morning and head to the gym. It’s not a decision I make, I just do it. In fact, taking a day off requires a conscious decision.

Once you establish new routines the same will happen to you. Instead of reaching for dessert after dinner maybe you go for a walk instead. Before you know it, you’ll reach for your walking shoes instead of a fork.

My point is this: The transition sucks, but it’s not forever. Given enough time, you will do the right things without a second thought.

It’s like my house buying scenario. I don’t enjoy packing, moving and doing a drop-and-roll every time someone wants to see the house, but I want it sold so we can move into our new abode.

Even with a mover to help, a large part is still up to us. Movers won’t decide what gets tossed out and what we’re taking with us.

Same goes for finding a plan that works for you.

In essence, nothing works if you don’t.



Are YOU really ready to make the commitment? 

Let me know what stops you? in the comments section below…

Questions? Drop me a line at linda@lindamelone.com and I’ll be sure to respond.

Other posts you may like:

7 Reasons you’re STILL not seeing results

3 “harmless” diet beliefs that sabotage weight loss

3 Cardio myths that make you fat

Until next time…

Your Ageless Body Coach,