I like to consider myself an optimist, even after going through a lot of seriously unfun crappola in my life.

I’ve talked about much of it here: an eating disorder, abusive relationship, panic attacks so bad I was practically housebound, and a host of other less-than-wonderful situations. 

Each time, I eventually came out better for it in the end. The operative word here: “eventually.”

Sometimes I figured things out fairly quickly and scraped them off my psyche as if it were a smear of dog poo. Other times, it took years. Usually the latter, unfortunately.

Between the actual situation and the ah-ha moment was frustration, self-questioning, vowing to never ever get myself in that situation again, and some serious self-doubt about my sanity.

The latter consisting mainly of, “What the hell was I thinking???”

It typically the way these things go. The dust needs to settle before you can look objectively at a situation and figure out where you left your senses. It’s easy to lose perspective when you’re in the middle of an aggravating and frustrating or painful situation.

The same applies to getting in shape or losing weight.

It’s never a straight trajectory from Point A (out of shape/overweight) to Point B (fit and lean).

Your mood and motivation will vary, as the scale goes up and down for no reason even when you think you’re doing all the right things.

I can definitely relate.

The frustrating times can be enough to make you toss the whole idea out the window so you can flop back on the couch and justify going on a 48-hour binge watching, pizza eating, pajama-wearing, bender.

Don’t do it.

Because here’s the thing: Many of your fitness frustrations can be avoided when you know the truth behind them.

I hear these all the time, which is what gave me the idea for this post. Here are three of the most common fitness frustrations to ditch right now…

  1. You compare your beginning to someone else’s end    

First, never compare yourself to anyone. You have a unique set of genes and attributes that make you YOU. Worse yet, looking at another person and wishing you “looked like that” when the other person is a seasoned fitness person doesn’t even make sense.

It’s fine to find inspiration, but if you’re just starting out it’s unrealistic to expect to look like someone who’s been working out for a decade or longer, eating clean and following other protocol along the way. This brings me to my second point…

  1. You get aggravated when you don’t see results “fast enough”

Lack of patience sends up a red flag. It means you’re not making changes you can do for the rest of your life. I once had a woman quit when she didn’t see changes to her body after two weeks. TWO WEEKS! I thought she was kidding and started laughing. She was not.

Quick fixes are also (usually) quick fails. Think about how long it took you to get out of shape. Chances are, the process didn’t start a couple weeks ago. So why expect a solution in a few weeks?

Enjoy the process! You should feel good, not tortured, by the changes you’re making. If you do, you’re doing it wrong. Give yourself at least a few months before deciding if something’s working for you. And if it’s not, make changes, never give up.

  1. You’ve “tried everything” and nothing works

Nope, you haven’t. That’s like me saying, “I’ve tried every lipstick in the world and can’t find my shade!” Actually, that’s a poor example because I pretty much have. Still. Chances are, you’ve tried a bunch of different things for a short period of time and got bored or didn’t see results (refer to #2).

The cure: consistency and progression. You must be consistent with all of it, eating clean and exercise. And you need to challenge yourself with exercise or your muscles will adapt. Seek out a professional to help you if you’re stuck


What’s YOUR biggest fitness frustration? Let me know in the comments section below…

Other posts you may enjoy:

5 Morning routines to help you seize the day

10 ways to get in shape when exercise bores you to tears

How to turn fitness fails into success stories

Your Ageless Body Coach,




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