Recently someone accused me of being long winded. She said (and I’m paraphrasing here) that my yammering on about silly stuff on my blog took so long to get through that she couldn’t make it to my tips and bailed before reading down that far.   

I can’t totally blame her. I realize my idea of being “entertaining and humorous” may be someone else’s “annoying and boring.”

I get it.

But here’s the thing: You are free to ignore all my crazy bantering and immediately scroll to the action tips at any given time. So today I’ve marked in ALL CAPS down below where the no-nonsense begins.

I’ll wait…

Still here? Good. Now let’s talk about those cranky people.

Just kidding! I honestly don’t take offense. Maybe a little, but not everyone enjoys the same things, right?

It’s why we have lipstick and lipgloss, boots and flip flops, kale and donuts.

You have choices.  

I choose to bring a little levity to aging and menopause since you can find tons of negative, depressing, angry info on the subject just about anywhere else.

But not here.

Sure, I get depressed when my knee prevents me from doing something I did last year (I’m looking at you, side lunges). Yes, it sucks having osteoporosis. It makes me feel as if I’m playing Jenga with my bones, unsure if today I will make a wrong move, pulling out a block that leaves me with a fractured spine.

But focusing on these things makes people feel worse about themselves (myself included), not better.

Instead, I’ve conditioned myself to look for ways to see the humor or at least the upside of these things. And it’s always there if you’re willing to look for it.   

And if you can’t find it, well, it’s why I’m here.

I’ve found adapting this habit makes it easier to get through life. And, in general, people like to be around others who make them laugh. Except, maybe, for all the people without a sense of humor.

But they’re long gone by now. It’s just us fun people.

There’s always something you can do. You just have to find it.

Enough hilarity… onward to action steps.


If you scrolled to these tips, welcome back! I swear we weren’t saying bad things about you, just passing time being all boring and talking about the weather.

So today’s idea came about after I began seeing a pattern of a few particular nutrition questions.

I typically find the answer to a person’s question embedded in the email. Here’s what I mean: A question may, “I eat clean most of the time and still can’t lose weight…” Can you guess the key giveaway word in that sentence?

This brings me to my first tip…

  1. Your diet is healthy “most” of the time             

I’d like to answer this question with a question. First, what’s your idea of “eating healthy” or “clean eating”? Second, what qualifies as “most” of the time?

If you order from a clown’s mouth less than you used to in the past, but you’re still hitting the secret sauce three times a week, it leaves room for improvement. Ditto for “most” of the time.

You should strive for 100% of the time, which will likely end up being closer to 80 to 90%. If you start out at 80% you’ll likely end up around 50%.

  1. You have no appetite until dinner

“I’m just not hungry during the day,” I hear a lot. This classic example of a Catch-22 situation can be self-defeating in a couple of ways. If you eat most of your food at night you won’t be hungry in the morning. The only way to change this up is to start eating more during the day and gradually weaning yourself off from the late night all-you-can-eat buffet.

In other words, Catch-22. Only you can change it yourself.

Who cares as long as your total calories for the day are within your range, right? You may be thinking.

The answer: yes and no. (I know, I hate that response, too, but it’s fitting here.) Yes, because in theory it’s true. If you lose weight on 1,300 calories a day, as long as your ONE meal of the day clocks in at that amount in theory you should still lose.

The clincher? Do you know how quickly those calories add up, especially when you feel justified eating everything in sight because you’ve starved yourself all day? It’s a loaded burger, big plate of pasta and a host of other mealtime choice fiascos.

Consider a slice of pizza is about 300 calories. Eat three slices — not hard to do when you’re ravenous — and you’re at nearly 1,000. And it rarely stops there. When you’re super hungry (I’ve been there!), it’s tough to stop and you’re usually way past the finish line before you realize Rolaids will be your BFF tonight.

Eat during the day when your body needs the food most for energy. You’ll feel better, sleep better and yes, you may even see those pounds roll off.

  1. You “hardly” eat anything    

Several studies show most people underestimate their calorie intake by 40% and overestimate their activity level substantially.

I cannot tell you (mainly because I don’t remember) how many women over the years have told me this very thing. Then I have them record their food in real time. And bug them hold them accountable.

Yes, food journaling is a pain but it really works by shining a light on problem areas and getting you out of denial. I’m not saying you’re consciously in denial, but you may be unaware of how many calories are in that bite of cake, handful of candies, or lick of ice cream.

It all counts. Until you monitor your intake accurately, you will likely struggle.

(If you need help with this, ping me to talk to set up a 10-minute strategy call to get you started in the right direction.

NOW YOU… What do you tell yourself that holds you back from losing weight? Do any of these tips ring true for you? Let me know in the comments section below…  

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P.S. Please forward this to any of your ageless friends and share it online! I’d be forever grateful ♥.

Your Ageless (long-winded) Body Coach,