I am super stressed right now. I want to get that out in the open first thing in case I say something in this post that either a. gives it away, or b. makes you think I’ve hired a ghostwriter because I’m not my usual jovial self.
Nope, just me.
A long meditation and workout did little to ease the situation. So you know it’s bad.
I was going to blame it all on our move this week, which is the immediate issue. But it goes beyond that.
It’s the uncertainty of the transition itself, plus sorting through the clutter, deciding what to take, donate, or toss out, that spikes my adrenalin.
Plus, the ripping sound of yards of packing tape and snapping off sheets of bubble wrap make me want to run out of the house screaming.
Good thing I’m on anti-anxiety meds.
As for deciding what stays or goes, I would gladly pay a king’s ransom to employ someone else to make these decisions for me. (I don’t even know how much that costs, but it must be substantial if it involves a king.)
Plus, each drawer full of old Christmas cards, photos and souvenirs inspires me to sit on the floor and take a trip down Memory Lane for a few hours.
That slows things down.
It also sends me into a wonderfully depressive state where everything is suddenly sacred and must be moved into the new house even if we haven’t looked at it in the past 12 years.
So there’s that.
I have a hard enough time focusing on tasks at hand on a normal workday, let alone when I know I should be sorting through my closets trying to decide if I can part with shoes I’ve never even worn.
I envy people who can live in a tiny house with a single pot, dish and cup, a wardrobe that fits into a shoebox and a bed that doubles as a desk, microwave and toilet. Not for me. I file tiny house living in the same category as climbing Mt. Everest, swimming with sharks and camping.
I’m sure they’re all wonderfully exciting, but if I don’t have a place to plug in my blowdryer I’m out – let alone trying to find an outlet while suffering from altitude sickness.
I need stuff. I admit it. I love being surrounded by my loved ones: shoes, eyeshadow palettes and piles of jeans.
In fact, I once wrote an article that appeared on Yahoo! about signs you may be a hoarder. According to the experts I interviewed, I thought for sure I was well on my way. Turns out, even though I was storing some of my makeup in the jacuzzi (using non-storage vessels for storage was on the list of “signs”), my excess items were organized, not randomly thrown together.
So, thankfully, that saved me from fully “qualifying” as a hoarder. I’ve also since found a better storage system so the tub is usable once again.
Going through this process made me realize how much moving is like getting in shape and losing weight.
And for once it’s not even much of a stretch.
It’s all about change, which requires the following essentials…
1. Be comfortable with discomfort
Discomfort is simply part of the process. And, while I don’t like it as much as the next person, I do it when I want whatever’s on the other side of that discomfort. In the case of moving, I need to make time to pack and do all the other things I don’t normally A. like to do, or B. want to do. Yet, unless I am willing to deal with these outside the box events (pun intended), I will remain in this house.
The same thing happens when you change your eating or exercise habits to anything other than your usual routine. It’s tough initially but will be worth it in the end. You must keep your eye on the prize in order to succeed.
How to do it:
Keep in mind the discomfort is only temporary until you get on the other side of that change. In other words, once you get used to making better food choices and carving out time for activity, it will become second nature. Trust me. You’ll find yourself doing crazy things like turning down a piece of cake because your goals are etched in your psyche.
In short, the initial discomfort will be less and less over time. You can do it!
2. Break it down
When I look over the sea of boxes in front of me it freaks me out. I can’t imagine how I’m going to pack all these rooms.
Many people do the same thing with getting in shape. If you look at only the long-term goal of, say, losing 20, 30 or more lbs., it can become so overwhelming you quit before you give yourself a chance to see results.
How to do it:
Just get started. Do something right now for 10 minutes — even five minutes. Walk around, do a couple push-ups against your desk – move! Then grab an apple instead of a cookie for dessert later today.
It’s as simple as that. You know the term, “paralysis by analysis”? Don’t do that.
Once you realize it doesn’t take a monumental effort, complex algorithm or DNA analysis to get results, then start blocking out time in your schedule for exercise and set small dietary goals each week. Build from there.
3. Be ALL IN
One of the things that scares me about this move is knowing this is IT. Next week at this time I will no longer call this house my home. Someone else will. There’s no turning back.
I know I will love our new home, since it offers us more space and amenities this one does not.
Same goes for making a lifestyle change. If you give yourself a safety net, such as keeping your “fat” jeans on hand “in case” you gain back the weight or otherwise give yourself a safety net, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
Know it will be tough at first. But it will be WAY worth it.
How to do it:
Be patient. Take baby steps and allow each one to build on the other. Avoid quick fixes, fad diets and get-thin-quick tricks. If you need help, ask for it. If you need personal guidance, send me an email and we’ll set up a 15-minute consultation where I’ll steer you in the right direction.
I promise within that time I’ll be able to tell you what you need to do to see results!
NOW YOU… Which of the above mindset changes is hardest for you? Let me know in the comments section below.
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P.S. If you missed last week’s series of live webinars, “How to Beat the Weight Loss Odds After Menopause,” and would like to check it out, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will be happy to send you a link!
Chat soon… Your Ageless Body Coach,