August 21

The ONE thing you're not doing that stops weight loss in its tracks


First, let me say that I love getting emails from readers. It helps me know where you’re struggling and how I may be able to help.

But apparently some people think I’m holding back on some deep, dark secret – a magic potion, if you will – that instantly dissolves belly fat and excess weight.

My own private island does not make me fearful in the least bit

And the only reason I haven’t yet divulged this information is because I have a fear of being a billionaire, owning a private island or sleeping on a mattress stuffed with hundred dollar bills.

I’m here to tell you: It’s not the case.

Here’s the thing.

When I get an email from one of my Ageless peeps asking for help, it’s usually about weight loss.

Before I respond (and yes, I personally respond to all my emails and will continue to do so until I can train my private island staff to help me), I look over the note carefully.

This “investigation” is a short one if it’s a disjointed single sentence sent from a phone, saying, in essence: Please help! Nothing works. [frowny face with tears] Can’t get rid of this belly fat!!! [no signature or name, which leads me to think it’s a collective cry from the very universe itself]

In such a case, I don’t know the first thing about the person’s background, what they’ve tried, what’s worked, if they recently gained the weight, or if they’re held captive and being force fed cookie dough ice cream by a bunch of hooded bad guys.

Other times I get a LOT of detail, including every single meal they’ve eaten since they started on solid food and a workout history dating back to the time of Moses, when cardio consisted of running from rapidly rising flood waters.

Problem is, I still have to put on my CSI hat to look for clues because most of the time this recorded history is far more pristine than my own.

How can this be?

Silent Movie Frame Once Upon A Time
The start of most diet journals

My own diet is hardly picture perfect. A trainer friend of mine calls his clients’ food journals “the greatest pieces of fiction ever written” because they almost always read like a page out of a dietitian’s handbook.

If it were true, this person would be losing weight (barring any undiagnosed health issue, which I always inquire about).

That’s when I bring out my heavy duty, supercharged, heat seeking, military grade BS detector.

No, I’m not calling anyone a liar, so hold your horses on pushing that delete button.

But I am saying this: The one mistake I see most often (aside from a lack of consistency, which I talk about at length HERE) is denial and/or a lack of awareness of sabotaging habits.

For example, if someone tells me they eat clean “most of the time” I want to ask, what exactly constitutes”most of the time”?

Do you eat healthy once a week, five days a week or when just when you step on the scale, freak out and get on the straight and narrow for the next 12 hours?

Because let’s face it, denial is much more comfortable than actually facing your bad habits and doing something about it.

Another major clue to finding the source of the problem is when I hear, “I know I should do more X, drink less Y or stop eating Z, but I just can’t stop!”

I translate that to mean they know where the problem lies and just want me to either confirm their suspicions or they’re simply looking for sympathy that yes, they are indeed a lost cause.

If you’ve read a single of my blog posts you know I’ll never say the latter.

My point is this: In order to lose weight, get fit,or make any change to your body, you must first target the problem and be honest with yourself.

You do this by tracking your food and exercise, pinpointing the problem and making changes towards that goal.

Easy peasy, right?

Nope, not in the least bit. It’s tough, which is why it’s easier to blame your genetics, your significant other, the weather, or stress eating because The Real Housewives is still a thing.

denialI get it.

But it’s the ONLY way to get out of denial. Until you’re willing to take a hard look at yourself and address the issue at hand, you’ll stay exactly where you are now.

Change is a process, not an instant transition, although the decision to change happens in a moment. Like now. Or now. Take your pick.

So here’s how to take the first steps towards making real changes that stick:


1. You must keep a food journal, whether it’s an old school notebook or online. Include how you felt, where you ate and with whom, and your mood, along with the food and amount you ate. This helps you hone in on emotional eating habits and little bites and nibbles you eat that you “don’t count.”


2. Write down your workouts, including how you felt that day, what you did, how long you worked out continuously (e.g. doing a set of squats then Facebooking for 15 minutes does not count as 16 minutes of exercise), and your intensity.


3. Evaluate where you need to make a change and take steps to get there.

Be brutally honest with yourself. Ask yourself:

Where do you fall short?

What triggers cause you to reach for that sleeve of Fig Newtons?

What can you do instead of the unhealthy behavior?

Once you figure out where you need work and take steps to fix it, you’re on your way to reaching your goals.

The biggest challenge lies in admitting the areas where you need help.

Make sense?


Do YOU know where you need the most help? What trips you up?

Let me know in the comment section below… I’d love to know!  

Other posts you may find helpful:

3 steps to push yourself outside your comfort zone & get better results

How to achieve any goal in four steps

3 Motivation myths that stop you from making progress

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Got questions? Email me at

Your Ageless Body Coach,

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  1. This the to what I have been asking myself! What am I doing wrong and why am I not seeing change? I will keep track of both and I need to be honest with myself. This is great advice!

    1. Hi Deb, Many times it’s the little things we don’t count. We can’t get away with anything after 50 and not pay the price! lol

  2. I have been on this journey for 4 months now and I have lost 18 lbs in those 4 months, but I know that if I was doing EVERYTHING right, it would likely be double that number. But I don’t know that anyone does everything right all the time.

    I’m trying to find my place, still. I was doing the 1,200 calories a day thing but my weight wasn’t budging, even though I was doing brisk walks for 20 minutes, every other hour. I increased my calorie intake by about 200 calories a day, and started losing weight. Slowly, but it was going.

    I discovered, to my horror, that my beloved wine was derailing me. Not because I was drinking it, but because I was drinking it with my meals. I learned that the metabolic system is not unlike me. It sees food, it says “Okay, I’ll do this food.” But, when it sees alcohol, it says “To hell with the food, I’m hitting that booze!” and it stops metabolizing food. So, I don’t allow myself my wine until at least 2 hours after my dinner.

    I get discouraged, though, because for all the things I deny myself, I’m only losing weight at about one pound every 10 days. Each month I’ve had about a 5-7 day stretch where I go off track, just a bit. I guess you could say it’s my “who cares” time. I might indulge myself with an ice cream or a second glass of wine or not exercising for a few days. It’s never an all out fall off the wagon, but it’s a dangerous teetering on the edge.

    What I need, more than anything else, is someone to help me hold myself accountable. I’m retired, but all of my friends still work, so it’s hard for them to get/make the time that I now have. Add to that the fact that I’m beginning to have some problems with one of my feet, and the discouragement level just keeps climbing. Without that foot working at 100%, I can’t do my walking, cardio exercise is limited, and it even interferes with my weight lifting.

    When your feet aren’t happy, nothing is happy. And that’s no BS! HAHAHA

    1. You need to give yourself more credit! Seriously, your weight loss is exactly on track with recommendations. The goal is to make changes you can live with, so if you starve yourself or deprive yourself completely you may lose faster but will not be able to keep it up for long. As for the wine… alcohol DOES, unfortunately, slow fat metabolism by about 30%. But I never heard of it making a difference if you drank it with meals or without. And yes, accountability is a HUGE factor in sticking to a plan. It’s funny you say that because I am creating a program based largely on accountability, so stay tuned for that :).

      Keep up the great work!

  3. Thank you so much for the suggestion of a journal.. I have got to be 100% honest with myself in all aspects of what I need to do for me in order to get the weight off and keep it off. I am 51 and am 5’2 and weight 209. I’m not as round as I am tall it is distributed evenly ( no excuse there) but I am a CNA and work 12 hour shifts 3 days in a row and I feel awful by the 3rd shift and I know its because im carrying so much excess weight. Please keep me in your prayers as I start my Journey.I know that..” I can do ALL things through Christ who Strengthens me” Phil 4;13..And Thank you So So much Linda for your website and videos and God Bless you for wanting to help us all…Kerri

    1. Thank you so much for the kind words, Kerri! The most important thing to keep in mind is to focus on the journey and not the end goal. It’s fine to set a goal, but each day think of ways to move yourself forward towards a healthier body. Take one step, then another. Habits build on themselves. Before you know it, BOOM! You’re losing weight AND enjoying life. It’s what it’s all about, right? Hugs to you :).

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