I’ve talked in the past about my incessant need to ask questions, including while under sedation during my colonoscopy.

I am apparently super annoying even while unconscious.   

The worst part? I will never know what I asked. I believe all gastroenterologists are required to take a vow of silence when their patients say (or, in my case, ask) dumb things under anesthesia. 

Good thing, since I’m sure I’d be mortified.

I’m also grateful it’ll be another decade until I need to deal with that situation and by then I hope the doctor has forgotten or has retired to write a book, “Weird Things People Say When They Have a Tube Up Their Butt.” 

My “need to know” stems at least in part from my 10+ years of writing and interviewing people. Plus, I am super nosey have a real curiosity. 

My head spins with questions whenever I have an idle minute and people are around. Airports, malls, anyone standing in front of me while I’m doing cardio at the gym – no one is safe from my inquiring mind. Hmmm…. 

  • What does she do for a living? 
  • Cat person, dog person or reptile owner? 
  • Hybrid, SUV or motorcycle?

In my head, these qualify as “burning questions,” once to which I’ll never have an answer.

My questioning doesn’t stop there. I do the same with myself, questioning why I said things, why I can’t seem to say other things and, of course, what’s the real meaning of life?

When it comes to weight loss or getting fit, most of us do the same thing. Problem is, we often ask ourselves the wrong questions, ones that keep us stuck.

Simply changing the way you ask yourself a question can help steer you in the right direction.

Here’s what I mean. Questions I get most often include:

  • “Why can’t I get motivated?”
  • “Why can’t I stop eating sweets?”
  • “Why do I lose weight to a certain point and then sabotage myself?”
  • “Why do all my favorite lipstick shades get discontinued?”

Aside from the last one, for which no real answer exists, let’s turn these questions around so you can make progress…

Swap out: “Why can’t I get motivated?” for “What motivates me?”

In the first question you’re digging for reasons that will only keep you more stuck. So instead of looking for excuses or reasons why you’re not motivated, look for what does motivate you.

Your thoughts take you where you direct them, like looking at the road in front of you when you drive, not behind.

So asking why you can’t do something brings you closer to those roadblocks, where asking for what works opens your mind to those ideas.

Make sense? Let’s try the next one.

Swap out: “Why can’t I stop eating sweets?” for “What can I eat that satisfies my cravings and is healthy at the same time?

You CAN stop eating sweets if you put your focus on what to do instead. Thinks of alternates and stop focusing on the problem.

Okay, last one:

Swap out: “Why do I lose weight to a certain point and then sabotage myself?” for “How can I continue to maintain the good habits and changes that got me to my goals?”

My point: You can often figure out your own issues by asking yourself new questions.


What question(s) do you currently ask yourself and how can you turn it around? GO! Leave a comment down below — let’s dish!

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Your Ageless Body Coach,